When I'm alone, I speak English perfectly. I write even better. But when speaking in front of others, I always fall short of words. I lack confidence and think that they'll make fun of me. What should I do?
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Dear Anand, Your problem of forgetting words during conversation or not able to converse with English speaking crowd shows that you feel nervous. This nervousness can be removed Ist by gradual practice and then by requesting the person with whom you want to speak in English like' Please don't mind if...
read more Dear Anand, Your problem of forgetting words during conversation or not able to converse with English speaking crowd shows that you feel nervous. This nervousness can be removed Ist by gradual practice and then by requesting the person with whom you want to speak in English like' Please don't mind if my English is not good' the other person will say he will never mind and encourage you. Suppose you learn to ride bicycle and fall down you never give up if the people laugh at you because you are committed. Now if people laugh at you it is their negative approach. So be brave and follow the great men who were just like you once. Good Luck. read less
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The answer is simple, work on your confidence. You can do confidence building activities; go talk to a stranger, try starting a conversation with them on something mutual. For example, if you are waiting in line for something try to strike a conversation with the person in front of or behind you. Since...
read more The answer is simple, work on your confidence. You can do confidence building activities; go talk to a stranger, try starting a conversation with them on something mutual. For example, if you are waiting in line for something try to strike a conversation with the person in front of or behind you. Since both of you will be in the same situation, finding mutual grounds of agreement or even grievances won't be difficult. Be warned that not everyone will take kindly to your attempts at conversation but that's part of the learning experience. Second, based on your comments that you write English well, there shouldn't be any reason for other people to make fun of you. Have faith, speak without fear. read less
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Sandhya
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Try to speak by closing your eyes . Think there's no one in front of u . Start this practise and slowly u will definitely speak in front of the crowd
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Haritha Paricherla
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Hi Anand. Your problem is, you become highly conscious of yourself when you are surrounded by others.May be you think and/or compare or assume that ,the crowd is more fluent (in communication) than you. Practice mock presentations daily .Take a topic, and just start talking on it.Record your presentations.Play...
read more Hi Anand. Your problem is, you become highly conscious of yourself when you are surrounded by others.May be you think and/or compare or assume that ,the crowd is more fluent (in communication) than you. Practice mock presentations daily .Take a topic, and just start talking on it.Record your presentations.Play them.You will understand where you fall short - grammar,vocabulary fillers.Make it a routine.You can see the difference for yourself. read less
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So what you can do is you can undergo personality development course. For further information do visit our website or directly contact us.
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Have you tried speaking in front of the mirror? If not then do that. This will help you watch yourself as the one listening to your speech. Your confidence will increase. Secondly, sit with family members and try orating in front of them. You will find that your lack of confidence will no more affect...
read more Have you tried speaking in front of the mirror? If not then do that. This will help you watch yourself as the one listening to your speech. Your confidence will increase. Secondly, sit with family members and try orating in front of them. You will find that your lack of confidence will no more affect you. Try it!!! read less
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Practicing in front of a mirror is a start, then if you have to speak in front of others,prepare the night before if you can. Friends and family can be your panel. You mentioned confidence this is simply a fear that has to be gradually worked on, whether by practice when going out and conversing with...
read more Practicing in front of a mirror is a start, then if you have to speak in front of others,prepare the night before if you can. Friends and family can be your panel. You mentioned confidence this is simply a fear that has to be gradually worked on, whether by practice when going out and conversing with strangers or more importantly believing in your own innate ability to achieve the results you want. read less
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Viraj Purandare
Dear Anand, remember one thing in life. No one is born with any language in hand. Everyone has to go through a learning phase. So don't think about anyone around you while speaking. They were also at your position several years before. Congratulate yourselves that you gave an attempt to speak in English....
read more Dear Anand, remember one thing in life. No one is born with any language in hand. Everyone has to go through a learning phase. So don't think about anyone around you while speaking. They were also at your position several years before. Congratulate yourselves that you gave an attempt to speak in English. I have seen many people who don't even dare to take their first step. There is no harm in trying. Criticizers are always there. It's you who has to decide whether to listen to them or not. I give you guarantee that one day you will be putting your views here on this portal when someone will be at your place in future. So don't be nervous. Keep rocking !! read less
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Try to speak in front of the mirror.see yourself speaking g.Give you auto suggestion to be the best speaker.This will solve your problem.
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Your question clearly indicates that speaking English is not a problem for you. The real problem is you have social anxiety. You should work to reduce your social anxiety. You should go for cognitive behaviour therapy. Contact a professional clinical psychologist for the same to know the techniques to...
read more Your question clearly indicates that speaking English is not a problem for you. The real problem is you have social anxiety. You should work to reduce your social anxiety. You should go for cognitive behaviour therapy. Contact a professional clinical psychologist for the same to know the techniques to overcome social anxiety.It is easy that every one says increase your confidence, but how. There are specific techniques you should learn. I am sure you would speak impressive English in front of people. read less
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